Rules dating recovering addict
It’s important to understand that true intimacy in a relationship happens over time…not in a day, week or even a month.
Think of your best friend…how long did it take before you felt at the highest level of intimacy with them, where you were able to trust them completely, or share your deepest self?
But like the previous level, if we begin feeling too vulnerable, we can say we’ve switched our opinions or changed our mind in order to avoid conflict or pain.
Sharing feelings and experiences is the next level of vulnerability and intimacy.
If we sense we may be rejected or criticized, all we can do is try to convince others that we’re no longer impacted by our past. Because of that, it is the level that requires the greatest amount of trust.
This level is more vulnerable because we can’t change how we feel about something or the details of our past or current experiences. It is the level where we are known at the deepest core of who we are.This is slightly more vulnerable than level one, but because we’re not sharing our own opinions we can distance ourselves from the opinion if we feel threatened by criticism or rejection.